If I must rant about marriage, maybe it should be here.....

I am sure many people feel that no government should be able to say whom we can or cannot marry. There are laws protecting our people, but that should not interfere with our personal lives. It may not interfere with the majority that much, but to a significant number of lives it does. It keeps people from recognizing other people in a way we all can see in the straight community. Family. A unit traditionally sacred, and undeniably recognizable far back in our history.

Our government has made it impossible for any but the pre-approved package unit to be created. Does the government choose our business partners? No? How about what church we attend? Our political views?
Why should it be any different concerning whom we choose to keep beside us our entire lives? This is the same as keeping interracial marriages illegal. It is immoral and unjustified governing caused by old value systems & a society afraid of change. Strange, considering how our country was founded by rebels, who believed in individual freedom and equality.

We have gotten so far past our previous views on roles in the traditional home, that many of the people I am acquainted with (heterosexuals in "normal" relationships) have said that perhaps "marriage" should be dissolved altogether, because of the old social implications, and a "union" could be created instead. While I agree with the sentiment behind this, we already have the roles worked out, & a word for it. Would changing the word really change how we use it? I think it would be just as affective to simply include those of us at the back of the bus.

You have probably heard all of this, in some form or another before. Here is where I get personal.
I am not ranting for gay rights exclusively. I do not call myself a Lesbian. I am in a relationship with a woman, yes, but not only a woman. I am also in a committed relationship with a man. I am bisexual, and in a polyamourus relationship. This is fulfilling for me, because as a friend of mine once said I have "more love to give". I realize this may be unorthodox, but as an individual, I believe I have found what I was looking for. Is this any different, in concept, than the woman that meets the girl next door, & falls in love? Not really. We may talk about everyone's feelings a bit more than the average relationship, but essentially its about love, trust, and a commitment to each-other. I honor that commitment with honesty, forthright communication, and an acceptance of my loved ones, and their choices. If this bothers you, maybe you should look at that "socially unacceptable" couple again. When do you have the right to say whom I can love?

Many best wishes to you, & Your love, whatever form you may find it in.